Should You Make the First Move on a Guy?

Hello people *front flips in here*

Yeah, I’m back with my dramatic entrances especially as preparations are on top speed for tomorrow (not with me, with you guys). So I’d like to know your 2 cents on this topic, what do you think about a girl taking the bull by its horns and making the first move? Do you think it’s no big deal? I mean what if you really like this guy and you’re almost certain he feels the same way about you but is just being a wuss? Would you wait for “Mohammed” to come to you? What if he’s taking too long? What if “Mohammed” became exhausted before he got to the top of the mountain? *shrugs*

Guys, would you have a girl make the first move on you? Or is it a big turn off? Have you found yourself in a situation like this? How did you handle it? Did you feel the exact same way?

You guys wanna know what I think yeah? I’d rather not be the first to make a move on a guy. I’ve not done it before nor do I intend to. Not that I’m totally against it or anything, matter of factly, I actually think of girls who do as courageous. No, Seriously I do (*straight face*). It really does take a lot of guts to walk up to a guy, and say “Yo, so here’s the thing; I really like you a lot (Or I’m attracted to you/ I think you’re hot). I hope you feel the same way about me and we can build something together (Or maybe just have a fling or whatever), but irrespective of how you feel, I just think you should know. Okbye” (Omg!) I’m having goose bumps from picturing myself in that role right now. Special shout-out to girls who have done this before. Mehn!! Weh done ma *In Falz voice* Truth be told, in spite of my admiration for girls who have such liver, I also have reservations. Might I add that with regards to this topic, I speak for the African population, although this issue cuts across all races. Take for example, the Irish have the Leap year exception tradition. You do know about it right? Where a lady can propose to her man every February 29^th. Even though it’s not the exact same thing but I’d say it’s related. I mean, If a girl can be the first to own up to a guy about her feelings, then she might as well keep at it to the very end. It shouldn’t be a big deal her proposing to him as well, don’t you think? (Just saying. No judgements whatsoever).

You wanna know what my reservations are innit? Because it so isn’t because I lack the courage myself. I mean what could be worse than rejection; like Katie Glass wrote in her article on the leap-year proposal, “We already face it (rejection) every time we try on a size 10 jeans”. I know I’m probably starting to sound like a two-faced bitch but isn’t there something that you feel indifferent about (or even admire) when other people indulge in it but you wouldn’t be caught dead doing? (Do share. Leave a comment).

So where were we? Oh yeah! My reservations. So putting aside my experience, I’ve read a lot of books and articles on relationships and men, and one thing that “they” all agree on is that men appreciate a relationship/anything/woman more when they invest a lot of time, attention and effort into getting it/her than if it/she comes easy. This is totally relatable and sheds some light on the existence of the popular belief, “Men love the chase”. The process of “the chase” entails effort, time, attention and so on, now you get right? For me, one of the basic necessities─asides many others (*winks* lol)─ in a relationship is to be valued. Having put into experiment what would happen if anything pertaining women and relationships come easy to men,  the results affirmed what all the articles and books I’ve read reiterate. (This isn’t to say that there aren’t gonna be exceptions. The end result is all that matters). Therefore, I’d rather not risk starting the prospects of a relationship serving my heart and feelings on a platter of gold to a man (whose specie has over the years proven to have a genetically programmed tendency to take females for granted), thank-you-very-much.

There you have it, but that’s just one girl’s opinion. I’d really love to know what your own opinion and experiences are. If you have ever told a guy about your feelings first, did he feel the same way? Did you guys date eventually? Are you guys still together? Does he treat you right? If you’ve had a girl walk up to you and tell you she’s in love with you, how did it go? Did you find it sexy or yucky? Did you end up starting a relationship with her? Do tell guys. I look forward to reading your comments.

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Have a lovely Valentine’s Day.

❤️ Always,

Jasmine 🌸

Your flaws are perfect for the heart that’s meant to love you.

– Trent Shelton